I have lots of opinions. Some of them are conservative, some rather liberal, all of them pretty strong. I believe what I believe, I know what I know, and while I don’t necessarily require other people to agree with me unquestioningly, I refuse to apologize for my standpoint.
And having given that disclaimer, sit down my children, I’m going to learn you a thing.
I was reading an article the other day that discussed a photo circulated from an Eminem concert. The photo was of a young couple involved in a bit of concert inspired public fornication. The gentleman was in a state of undress, the woman was on her knees … I’m sure you get the picture.
And so did someone else, who then broadcast the photograph on Twitter and Facebook.
Okay, so that’s a bit unfortunate. No one likes to think that their sexual adventures will be broadcasted like that, even if they are silly enough to indulge in them in public. But of course that’s what happened. A photo got taken, which was then spread, and before you could say “swallow or spit” there’s quite the furore going on. Lots of condemnation and disapproval being thrown around.
The woman was called some terrible names, despised, reviled. She was demeaned and villified because she had oral sex in public. Okay, so it’s not the cleverest choice someone can make, but it hardly justified the amount of pure hate that was aimed at her. And at anyone who tried to defend her.
But not at the guy.
Apparently there was only one criminal here, the bloke might as well have been in the wrong place at the wrong time for the amount of attention that was paid to his part in it. And isn’t that just typical of today’s attitude towards women and sex.
Now I’m not going to go on a complete rant about this topic, god knows I don’t have the three hours it would take to do it justice, so I’m going to restrict myself to covering just one part of this issue. A message to all girls everywhere, if you will.
Girls, it’s not wrong to give someone else pleasure. It’s not wrong to accept pleasure from another person. It’s not demeaning or degrading or any of the other words I’ve heard bandied around that suggest a woman’s role in the sexual act is only acceptable if she pretends it never actually happened. I wouldn’t necessarily recommend doing it in public of course, but if you do that DOES NOT justify people treating you like less of a human being.
Sex is fun, it’s meant to be about happiness and pleasure and mutual orgasms. Sometimes it’s even about spiritual connections and love. But it’s not about one party debasing themselves while the other is lauded as a conquering hero.
And anyone who tries to make you feel like it is is an ass!