I’ve been watching The Bachelor / The Bachelorette since they began airing in 2002 and 2003. I’ve missed a season or two and I definitely can’t sit glued to the screen for two hours every Monday night, but you could say I keep up with it.
One of the biggest changes since the beginning of the show is the quality of the male “villains”. While viewers are used to the women being catty and underhanded, lately the men have been taking it to a completely different level.
Who could forget Wes Hayden from the 2009 season of The Bachelorette with Jillian Harris?
He made it almost to the end before his infamous post elimination limo ride, where he said to the camera that he was the only person to make it to the final four with a girlfriend. He later claimed that he was edited and what he actually said was, “Only guy in Bachelorette history to make it to the top four with a girlfriend. Get real, dude. If I had a girlfriend, I’d be home with her right now.”
Uh huh. I still maintain that no matter what his true intentions were, whether he had a girlfriend or not, his biggest crime was singing that insanely annoying song every five fucking minutes.
I also think that Jillian was insanely stupid to fall for that shit. Really, honey? You’re getting starry-eyed over that song…again? They say love, it don’t come easy, but apparently…you do.
(And so did Gia Allemand from The Bachelor Pad, who also fell for that crap…hook, line and giant fake sinkers.)
Anyway, though Wes pretty much started the bad boy routine, the guys on this season’s Bacherlorette are doing their best to blow him out of the water.
Ashley Hebert was warned about the 28 year old divorcee from Utah, Bentley Williams, before he even stepped out of the limo.
Michelle Money, who happens to be a former cast member from last year’s show, is friendly with Williams’ ex wife and passed along a tip to Hebert: He’s there to promote his business.
My first thought during the shows premiere three weeks ago, when host Chris Harrison sat Ashley down and basically said, “look, this guy could be here for the wrong reasons. You could send him packing without setting eyes on him”, …was “as long as he doesn’t sing, I don’t care how much of a dick he is”.
But I quickly changed my mind. The shit that was spewing out of that douche bag’s mouth during his one-on-one interviews was atrocious. If he was there to promote his business he did a piss poor job, because I can’t imagine anyone wanting to work with someone that deliberately sets out to humiliate and hurt someone they don’t even know.
He wasn’t simply stringing her along because he wanted the attention, he got off on that shit…looked like he would bust a nut every time he insulted her. And he has a daughter, whom he used as his excuse with Ashley for leaving the show, even though to the camera he said it had nothing to do with his kid.
I don’t feel too sorry for Ashley, simply because she did have a warning, but I will say he went out of his way to convince her that any accusations that he was there for the wrong reasons were unfounded. So, really, how was she to know? The person I feel most sorry for is his daughter.
The Bachelorette has only been on a few short weeks and already the woman has been played and insulted, reduced to tears and turned into a big ball of insecurity. I don’t know how much of the blame lies with the shows producers, but I know they aren’t squeaky clean. After all, they set up a comedic roast where the guys made fun of Ashley’s tiny tits and one guy (not the rat Bentley) said he wished it was Emily, the winner from last season, who would be on the show, not Hebert.
Though he apologized for taking the roast too far, the damage was already done.
I don’t think it’s a stretch to say that any relationship that might result at the end of this process won’t be a lasting one, simply because they’ve messed with this girl’s head so much. Not that the majority of the couples that walk away from the show stay together anyway. But producers might want to look into their screening process and work on weeding out the sociopaths.
Oh, and the Zorro wanna-bes: