A million years ago, I saw a video of a pregnant Gabrielle Reese (of Olympic volleyball fame) working out on a yoga ball and I’ve felt fat ever since.
But, suddenly I feel better, because I have something she doesn’t: a backbone.
Gabrielle Reece and pro surfer Laird Hamilton have been married for 17 years, and the Amazon goddess recently revealed, in appearances on the “Today” show and “Rock Center With Brian Williams,” the secret to their successful relationship.
Hip hip hooray! Finally someone has all the answers!
She said that she and Hamilton considered divorcing after four years of marriage, but their relationship improved when they learned how to complement each other by adopting more “traditional gender roles.”
I think the idea of living with a partner is ‘How can I make their life better?’ So if I’m the woman and he’s the man, then yes, that’s the dynamic. I’m willing and I choose to serve my family and my husband because it creates a dynamic where he is then in fact acting more like a man and masculine and treating me the way I want to be treated.
Acting more like a man? Seriously?
Before we talk about the whole serving your man thing, I get totally itchy when someone starts explaining how a”real” someone behaves, whether it’s a real man or woman or American or whatever. As if acting and differently from what one person considers normal makes you fake somehow.
Take note, gentlemen, if you’re not being served by a woman, you’re not real. Not to worry, though, you’re in good company with Pinocchio. If you like blue fairies and man-swallowing whales (no pun intended), you’re all set.
But! She clarified that she doesn’t think being submissive is a sign of weakness. My bad. I guess I was wrong.
I think because women have the ability to set the tone, that the ultimate strength and showing real power, I believe, is creating that environment. I think it’s a sign of strength.
So she’s being strong by setting a tone of submissiveness? Um, what now? Let me get this right. In order to let a man be in charge, I have to show strength by not showing strength?
Strength huh? You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
Sure, I’m not married so I clearly don’t know anything and by Miss Perfect Volleyball USA’s standards, I probably never will be, but seriously? She’s essentially saying that she saved her marriage by giving up herself.
So, married ladies who work or who make money or who say what you’re thinking or have opinions or don’t serve your husbands in their every need and whim? You’re doing marriage all wrong. You’re welcome. Love, Gabby.
I’ve seen the light! I can do it! I can be just like her! I’ll give up my naive dreams of having an equal partner with equal decision making in a completely useless relationship where we, stupidly, support each other and try to make each other happy and serve each other the same. That’s clearly just stupid. Thank you, Gabrielle Reece, for showing me the way!
I’ll also need to grow six inches and lose like 45 pounds and get a tan and a six pack. Done and done.
Traditional gender roles are one thing; many couples I know are still made up of stay at home moms and working dads (and contrariwise of course!), but giving up any power or agency you have in a relationship is just sad.
And she does know that in the world of gender roles she’s describing, there’s probably not much room for female athletes? Maybe someone should remind her that feminism included Title Nine.
Wait. Do you think he needs her to be submissive because she’s taller than him? That totally explains it! Never mind, people. I take it all back. Carry on, Gabby.